Infidelity rocks a relationship to its very core, just as sure as the hurt partner feels like the rug has been pulled out from under them.  What they might have taken for granted like trust and commitment are suddenly gone.  They are replaced by fear, anger, helplessness, and disbelief.  In the flood of questions the inevitable, “How could this have happened to us?”, or “How could you do this to me?” come up again and again.

Recovering from such an event may feel like an overwhelming challenge and   at times the hurt partner will doubt their resolve to meet that challenge.  While it clearly is overwhelming and it may seem like a long shot as you’re reading this, many couples not only manage to recover, they also find that they can greatly enhance their relationship in the process.

I help couples rebuild trust and turn crisis into opportunity through a series of steps:

·         Establishing a desire to do the work of recovery.

·         Exploring the feelings and questions of the hurt partner.

·         Coaching the couple in their efforts to communicate.

·         Exploring the thoughts and feeling of the unfaithful partner.

·         Setting the groundwork for getting closure and rebuilding  trust.

·         Uncovering the causes for choosing to step outside the relationship.

·         Renewing and reinventing the relationship.

As you can imagine, this process takes time.  The journey must be taken one step at a time and there will be setbacks.  Still, with hard work, a desire to do things differently and a commitment to give the relationship a chance you can recover from infidelity.